What prevents you from achieving orgasm?
Inability to achieve orgasm is not a deathful disease, neither it prevents a woman from conceiving. Nevertheless, a woman who regularly does not achieve orgasm, or even never achieves it does feel unhappy. This problem makes her feel bad, experience headaches, sometimes it even leads to some gynecological diseases. And that is not all.
A woman who does not cum during sexual intercourse might lose sexual desire. Her partner as well is likely to feel unhappy. Thus even the best relationships might break.
What might prevent a woman from achieving orgasm?
Inability to orgasm might be caused by a great deal of physiological and psychological factors. Let us mention only a few of them.
Physiological reasons - tiredness, not getting enough sleep, inflammatory diseases of sex organs, some phases of menstrual cycle during which libido decreases.
Psychological reasons deal with such things as dislike towards the partner, some complexes, fear of being seen by someone and others.
However, in most cases a woman does not orgasm because she simply does not know much about her sexual response and her body in general. Below we are going to give you some tips which might help you to achieve the greatest pleasure you can ever experience.
Our tips
In order not to hurry and not to be in anxiety find enough time for sex and create intimate atmosphere. Disconnect the telephone, let your children spend time with their friends or grandparents, etc.
Try not to speak about such things as work, money, your kids' problems at least half an hour before going to bed.
If you feel tired or depressed, try to relax before sexual contact. Take a bath, listen to relaxing music or simply think about something pleasant.
While making love concentrate on your sensations. Often women worry about their partner's pleasure and forget about the fact that both partners should get enjoinment. Be tender and loving, give your partner pleasure, but do not forget about yourself!.
What to lack of knowledge about own body and own sexual response here only one tip can be given - masturbate.
Get to know your body better
Masturbation is not something dirty and sinful. Only through masturbation can you get to know your body better and to begin loving it.
While masturbating you will find your erogenous zones and will realize what kind of stimulation you like most.
As well masturbation will enables you to find out whether you can experience clitoral orgasm or vaginal orgasm or even both.
For this purpose you should experience with various kinds of stimulation. Try to stimulate your clitoris with your finger or with a sex toy. Here such sex toy as a clitoral vibe will be of great use. Place it above your clitoris and enjoy vibration. Do you like it? Did you achieve strong orgasm? If you did, than you certainly can achieve clitoral orgasm during partner sex.
Ask your partner to stimulate your clitoris during sexual intercourse. He can do that with fingers, or orally or with help or again with a sex toy. He will make you orgasm, just let him know how he can do that.
As well you can experiment with some penetrative sex toys, such as dildos and vibrators. These sex toys are variously shaped and come in a great variety of materials. We recommend you to begin with traditional sex toys of this kind, with those which do not have additional features. After you get experienced enough you will certainly want to try some more complicated dildos and vibrators, such as G-spot vibrator or a double ended dildo.
While playing with a penetrative sex toy you will achieve at least two purposes. First of all you will find out whether you can achieve vaginal orgasm. If this turns out to be possible you will realize some more things. You will find out how much time you need for achieving orgasm, you will realize what kind of motions you like - fast or slow, or a combination of such motions. Than you will be able to explain to your partner what he should do to give you complete satisfaction.
By the way, do not think that teaching your partner how to give you enjoyment is something shameful. He will be glad to know how to make you orgasm. Nothing that happens between two loving people can be shameful. Be sincere!
